Polyamorous: Living and Loving More
by Jenny Yuen.
Blurb: A look at how people are giving themselves a choice to love another way.
“The heart is not like a box that gets filled up, but expands in size the more you love.”
Enlightened words you wouldn’t expect to hear from the computer in the movie Her, but it also rings true for humans. More people than ever are exploring the possibility of opening up their relationships — and not only that, they are fighting for their legal rights to love however and whomever they choose.
In Polyamorous, reporter Jenny Yuen digs into why open relationships are such a hot topic, why they’re becoming more normalized, and how relationships with multiple partners can be a practical alternative to monogamy and an intriguing expedition through uncharted emotional territory. Couples are clearing a path for “throuples,” “quads,” and “relationship anarchists” who navigate through jealousy and reach a place of “compersion” — feeling joy because your partner feels joy with another — as pairing off is no longer the default option for many. For some, polyamory is just a part of who they are.
Poly is love. Infinite.
Length: 300 pages.
Series: N/A – Standalone
Read as an: eBook.
My Thoughts: Polyamorous: Living and Loving More is an in depth exploration of polyamory and all the issues that can surround these relationships. Jenny Yuen makes this topic real through her honest discussion of real relationships and real people.
Polyamorous provides a very localised look at polyamory within Canada and often times provides very detailed social and historical context about the country. Despite being Australian and having very little understanding of the larger issues at play within Canada, I nonetheless found this local focus very grounding.
For me, a by-product of focusing on the one country, was that Polyamorous was very welcoming in it’s exploration of polyamory. That is, it demonstrates the prevalence of these little discussed relationships within one country. It discusses and tells the stories of people we wouldn’t necessarily read about. It welcomes and in it’s almost clinical discussion, shows that no one is alone – polyamorous relationships exist and they are all incredibly varied and different.
The actual content of the books focuses on many different aspects of polyamory. Topics such as jealousy, relationships structures, legal rights, and media perceptions are all covered within the book. Often chapters will focus on one or two examples or case studies of real people, as these issues are discussed and personal insights are offered. The inclusion of actual quotes and insights from people makes the chapters very nuanced, with each striving to demonstrate the many examples and ways in which polyamory can exist.
Polyamorous: Living and Loving More is different because it is a non fiction book that is not only respectful about its subject matter but personal. Yuen provides readers insight into polyamory as well as demonstrating that just as each person is different, so is each polyamorous relationship.
I would really recommended giving Polyamorous: Living and Loving More a read if you’re curious or interested in the subject matter. It is very well written and provides an excellent and personal reference point for the little discussed subject matter.